It seems to me like some people just have urges they cannot control and they let that come between perfectly happy relationships. The guys that have cheated on me have all been very insecure as well, and I feel like when other women showed them interest they folded so quickly because they took it like it would be a missed opportunity. They almost always seem to regret it later though. That being said, if someone wants to end their relationship and explore new ones that’s completely fine to me, people just need to have the respect to end their relationship first.
let's talk about cheating. why do people cheat? i mean this quite literally - it's a question i can't seem to wrap my head around. it seems to go against all line of logic; if you've lost feelings for someone, isn't it easier to let them go, take some time to recover, then move on? what's the appeal of stringing people along? but apart from the typical 'emotional' backing, or the feeling of superiority - i'm honestly baffled by how people have the time to play a balancing game constantly. it's a vicious cycle of lies and having to get your story straight (until you can't - which is how most people get caught). so why do it at all? what is it that makes it worth the time and energy tradeoff? genuinely curious. i don't necessarily agree that people who cheat once or make a one-off mistake are destined to do it over and over and over. some people cheat, truly learn their mistake, and ask for forgiveness, and there's others that do it repeatedly without a guilty conscience. there are varying degrees and magnitudes of cheating - but i'm genuinely curious why people do it - for whatever reason it may be. but yeah. that's the message.
I’m not so sure either. Like you have people that do it for the sake of money, but in terms of just cheating for one time (assuming that the cheater do get caught eventually), I would assume that a) this cheater likes another person but doesn’t want to also lose their SO, or b) they want to make it a smooth transition because they’re in a place where their SO isn’t for them, but fear that they wouldn’t have anybody else if they do decide to end the relationship and find another one. But no matter the reason, it’s still best to end the relationship and find someone else than to end two hearts (or more) who love them.
@gastronomee_